The Physical Side of Grief That No One Talks About

Grief is often seen as an emotional experience, and while it certainly is, the physical impact of loss is something many don’t talk about. The truth is, grief affects your entire body.

It’s not just your heart that aches; grief can manifest in ways that might surprise you — from fatigue and headaches to changes in appetite or even chronic pain.

If you’re experiencing physical symptoms while grieving, you’re not alone. Let’s shed light on what your body might be going through and how you can care for yourself during this challenging time.

What Happens to Your Body When You’re Grieving?

Grief puts your body under stress, and this stress triggers real, physical reactions. Here are some common ways grief might show up in your body:

• Exhaustion: Grief can drain your energy, leaving you feeling constantly tired, even if you’ve been resting. Emotional pain takes a toll on your physical stamina.

• Sleep Disturbances: You might find it hard to fall asleep, stay asleep, or you may wake up feeling unrested. Grief can disrupt your normal sleep patterns, leading to insomnia or oversleeping.

• Appetite Changes: Some people lose their appetite entirely, while others turn to comfort foods as a way to cope. Both extremes can affect your energy levels and overall health.

• Tension and Pain: Grief-related stress often causes muscle tension, leading to headaches, back pain, or a feeling of tightness in your chest.

• Weakened Immune System: The stress of grief can make you more susceptible to illness, as your body’s ability to fight off infections decreases.

• Heartache Is Real: The feeling of a “broken heart” isn’t just poetic. The intense stress of grief can mimic heart attack symptoms, a condition known as “broken heart syndrome” (or Takotsubo cardiomyopathy).

Listening to Your Body

When you’re grieving, it’s important to pay attention to what your body is telling you. Those aches, pains, and changes aren’t signs of weakness; they’re your body’s way of processing the weight of your loss.

Here are some ways to care for your body during this time:

• Rest, but Move Too: It’s okay to rest when you’re feeling drained, but gentle movement like walking or stretching can help release tension and improve your mood.

• Nourish Yourself: Even if food doesn’t seem appealing, try to eat small, nutrient-rich meals. Foods high in vitamins and minerals can help support your body through stress.

• Hydrate: Dehydration can worsen fatigue and headaches, so make sure to drink plenty of water.

• Prioritize Sleep: Create a calming bedtime routine, and if sleep issues persist, consider speaking with a doctor or therapist for guidance.

• Seek Support: Physical symptoms of grief can feel isolating, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Sharing your experience with a trusted friend, support group, or professional can help lighten the load.

  
  

It’s Okay to Ask for Help

Grief doesn’t just affect your emotions; it impacts every part of you. Recognizing the physical side of grief is an important step in your healing journey. If the symptoms feel overwhelming or persist, don’t hesitate to seek medical advice. Sometimes, a little extra support is exactly what your body and mind need.

Remember, your grief is valid, and so are the ways it shows up in your body. Healing takes time, and taking care of yourself physically is an important part of that process. Be gentle with yourself — your body is doing its best to carry you through this.

If you’re struggling with the physical side of grief and need guidance, I’m here to help. Let’s work together to create a self-care plan that supports both your body and your heart.